For the past two months, my ego has been ringing in my ear to “figure it all out now.” This is total BS because, let’s get real, we never have it all figured out. Life is about being present…because the present is all we ever have. Life is about allowing yourself to be guided to the future while being grateful for what you’ve got right now.
I’m in transition right now. Having graduated just shy of six months ago, I’m doing something totally different than I’d imagined. I went to school for nutrition and I always thought that I would spend 5-6 years in school and become a registered dietitian. When I hit my second year of college, my intuition threw down a red flag and said, “This is not your path, girlfriend. Finish school and then you’ll know where to go.” To be honest, studying nutrition was not what I’d imagined it to be. It was more medical-based and, while I did receive a good education, I didn’t feel passionate about the work. I was scared shitless. What was I going to do? I didn’t know. I had to wait. I had to trust. So, I did. And I’m so glad that I did. So, so glad.
I’m working my arss off to soak up and learn everything I need for my future plans. I know that I have a message to carry and I know that I’m good at giving that message and, while I don’t know how that is going to fully translate into my career, I know that I’m being guided. This is really hard for me to admit, because my ego will tell me that I’m not good enough for not completely knowing the direction of my career. But do we ever completely know the direction?
All of this over-thinking is a really selfish state-of-mind because it’s based on getting instead of giving. It’s focused on “when I get there” and “when I have this.” And this is where the ego thrives. It lives for trying to convince us that we’ll only be truly satisfied when we get something else. The truth is that I am exactly where I need to be.
I’m already teaching the message every day through this blog, through my work as a nutrition coach and barre instructor, through upcoming projects (!!!), and through daily encounters with everyone I meet. I’m already doing “the work.” This always centers me, because it reminds me that it’s not about the form – it’s about the content. The form of “having my career figured out” isn’t important right now. The content of sharing love by infusing it into everything that lights me up is the important thing. That’s where the juice is – that’s where the mutual exchange of love occurs…and that’s where the miracles happen. And miracles happen because of this mutual exchange.
Bottom line: It’s not all about you. It’s all about US uniting together in love.
As we continue to work on ourselves, it can be really easy for us to dip into a “me” mentality. We gotta remind ourselves that the reason we’re doing this work is to remove the blocks to love’s presence within us. Once we remove the blocks (i.e. work on ourselves), we can spread love to others. Spreading this love to others is manifested through miracles. We become miracle workers, helping others to shift their perceptions, and we welcome the presence of miracles into our lives.
If you’re feeling stuck, ask your internal teacher for help. Take a deep breath and say, “Internal teacher, I’m feeling stuck. I am open to receive guidance.” That’s when books show up and people show up – all to help you learn. Because when the student is ready, the teacher appears.
It’s important to remember that we are always students and teachers. This allows our perception to shift from getting to giving, realizing that you and I play equal parts in everything. We may never have it all figured out but we can extend our light and help others figure stuff out. And that’s the point of life, isn’t it?
Stay lovely,
Heather
This is important to remember. It isn’t all about any one of us at all. That’s when you begin focusing too much on yourself and not enough on the surroundings, which creates so many built up emotions. Reaching out to others is definitely the best way to stop focusing solely on the “me” and more on the “we”. Another thought provoking post!
Beautifully said, Sarah. xo
Thank you for posting this today. I’ve currently thrown everything to the wind and have no plans for after I graduate. It’s terrifying to change things up for sure. I have days where I just want to figure everything out rightthissecond and I need to keep telling myself that is NOT POSSIBLE. Ay yi yi! My internal guidance and I are going to have a chat.
There you go, girl! Remember it’s on the Universe’s clock and everything is unfolding in Divine order (i.e. is happening just as it should be FOR you – not to you). xoxo
You are awesome! I feel you on the path. Honestly, you’re such an amazing teacher, I see you shining in that journey! Careers are so difficult to finding. I find myself second guessing myself all that time, but I must remember this is my ego talking and that I can’t have everything figured out right this minute, and to be patient with the journey.
This is such a great reminder to us all.
Guess who got their phone back finally?! Me. Texting you!
Yes, girl. It’s not on your clock. It’s on the Universe’s clock. You’re being guided. Live in joy with where you are right now! It’s a blessing. You are so abundant. xo
Very insightful….thank you for this post! I am in my 30s and have been in my career for over a decade, however I am feeling the same way you are feeling right now career-wise. My ego has been telling me that I’m too old to pursue something new, but this year that’s all starting to change. Keep doing what you’re doing gorgeous soul!
Girl, you can SO do this! I suggest watching Marie Forleo’s videos on YouTube. She has a great post on what you’re struggling with right now. I know it will be of service to you! http://www.marieforleo.com/2011/09/are-you-too-old/
I’m already a Marie TV viewer but I’ve never seen this video….thanks for the link!!!!!!! She gives such good advice, I heart Marie! B School just started and I missed the deadline to enroll, but I will have enough $$$ saved up to get in next time. Have you thought about B School? Would love to be in it with my fave blogger!
I’m already a Marie TV viewer but I’ve never seen this video….thanks for the link!!! She gives such good advice, I heart Marie. B School just started and I missed the deadline to enroll, but I will have enough $$$ saved up to get in next time. Have you thought about B School? Would love to be in it with my fave blogger!
Yes! I’ll be there next year.
I’m exactly where you were when you were in school, thinking that this might not be for me and hoping that I’ll be able to find my next step by the end of the summer…
You WILL find your next step. Just surrender to your internal teacher and you will be given everything that you need. Every morning, ask your internal teacher to guide you. Trust in that, baby!
Yes, Heather, I think you are exactly where you need to be – and don’t ever feel down about that! You’re guiding and helping so many each day by consistently honouring your commitment to sharing your journey on this blog. I feel honoured to read it and be a part of this community, you’re truly an inspiration. And of course if you do feel caught up in all that ego crap, remember that the journey IS everything anyways
xoxo
That last sentence totally gave me chills, Kasandra. You’re a miracle. xo
I can completely understand and relate to the things you’ve been experiencing.
I’ve spent the better part of my life focusing on attaining ONE specific goal and over the past few months I’ve heard the universe telling me that maybe I need to follow a different path. It’s difficult…really difficult. But, I know it will be worth it.
And there’s no doubt in my mind that you’re exactly where you need to be. You’re inspiring so many people on a daily basis and your influence will only continue to grow. <3
It’s that quater-life Divine Storm, baby. Haha! You’re going to get through this. If we aren’t stepping into fear, we aren’t growing. And if we aren’t growing, we’re not happy. I have faith in you, girl. You’re such a light in my life. xo