We have to feel our pain and our feelings in their entirety in order for them to be released. The reason why so many people “play it small” throughout their life and don’t reach their full potential is because they skip the first and most crucial step: feeling it and witnessing it. And even if people do feel and witness their behavior and recover, they are tempted again into that behavior. And when they’re tempted, they think they’re doing something wrong.
The Universe is not testing you because it wants you to be miserable and have all this pain. That’s your ego talking. The Universe is testing you because it wants you to train your mental muscles. It wants you to become a pro at training your brain to say yes to love in all situations. That’s the goal. And as with everything, we can’t get there without lots of practice. This week, this lesson has been clearer to me than ever. I’m being tested over and over again to learn my lesson in regards to a relationship with someone close to me, and it’s painful. But I know it’s because the Universe wants me to master the lesson so I can teach it to others. This is the message of The Healing Detox.
The Healing Detox has three phases:
Phase 1: Feeling it & Witnessing It.
The cliche that says the first step is always the hardest is not just a cliche – it’s true. Feeling it is painful but it’s the number one step to moving forward and freeing yourself of that behavior. At this point, you feel triggered and still act on it but still know the behavior is whack. So, you might still send that impulsive text message or email, or you might still overeat, or might still pick up a drink. The difference is that you have witnessed the fact that you’re engaging in it. As opposed to just acting on it without giving it a second thought. Success!
Phase 2: Surrender Your Ego
Here, you feel triggered and act on it but realize that you don’t have to act on it. You realize that you have self-control. You don’t have to send the text or the email, you don’t have to bring out your claws, you don’t have to pick up the food. So, you feel whatever is coming up for you, witness your behavior, and surrender your ego’s way to your inner teacher. Ask the Universe to speak to you through your inner teacher, so you can be guided. Surrender doesn’t mean that you give up – it means you transfer your power from your ego to your inner teacher. Then, patiently wait with faith.
Phase 3: You’re Healed
The next time the situation comes up, you just don’t go there. You don’t send the text or email, you don’t overeat, you don’t bring out your claws. And better yet, you’re even more in tune than you were before the destructive behavior showed up. You’re shinier and newer than you were before because you decided to surrender your way to the care of this loving energy. At this point, you can feel it and witness it, surrender the behavior, and know that you love yourself too much to do that to yourself.
I went through all of these phases and, now, I just don’t go there. I’ve built the mental musculature to be able to witness my thoughts without judgement (“Okay, my ego is telling me to binge.”) and to not be tempted into an immediate response. I wait and then surrender by asking myself, “What would Love do?” Love wants me to be fulfilled. Binging always made me feel empty. I don’t binge. Then I thank the Universe for giving me the opportunity to confront my fear again, to be tempted again just so that I can further my healing process.
In reality, you’re being tempted because the Universe loves you so freakin’ much. The Universe wants to test you again and again so you can become a pro at handling it with love. So you can accept the assignment you’ve been given, ask what you can learn from it, and ask the Universe to help you handle it with love. The Universe is your co-pilot. Beforehand, you thought that you were all alone. But that’s not true. You have guidance inside of you and all around you. Your task is to call on your inner teacher to help you handle the situation with love. So, are you ready to buff up your mental muscles and detox from fear and pain?
Are you ready for your detox?